Peter is so flippin' hilarious

My husband does not enjoy giving his opinion on my wardrobe, my hair, my shoes, or my lipstick color. Maybe he feels cornered. Perhaps he doesn't want to offend me. He simply exudes a gushing, flattering response just to get past these types of questions as quickly as possible. For example: "Oh yes, yes, that skirt is sooooo flattering honey!"...with his eyes turned toward the tv... You get the idea.
This morning, I tried a new "do" (which is actually sort of my old "do") by flipping my hair out instead of under in the traditional A-line. My hair is getting long and I'm at that critical decision point, keep growing it out or cut it short again in the A-line. So, I naively thought I'd ask the Pete, since there's no one else around the apartment at 8am... he was dozing on the couch after an early gym visit. "Peter, give me your honest opinion- do you like the flippies or do you prefer it under, like before, in the A-line?" Peter (with one eye opened): "Oh yes, it looks wonderful like that; I love the A-line." ? A: "which one do you like better, A-line or flippies?" P (other eye opened): oh yes, such nice, nice hair!" A: "Nevermind. You don't know what an A-line is, do you Peter?" P: "Hmmm....such nice hair! So pretty!" I had wasted 5 minutes of both of our time.
Then, this afternoon, he sends me a goofy text message: "Did I tell you how beautiful you looked this morning? I mean, how can I slumber when the flippies look so smoking? It revvs my engine, its flippin hot!" I smiled. And laughed. out loud.
The thing with Peter is he just doesn't spend a lot of time on his hair or his clothes and his personal opinion is that "women" shouldn't spend so much time obsessing about their appearances, that we are encumbered about with trivial things. So, he doesn't want to encourage me or others in our vanity. Its not that he doesn't care. And deep down, he knows what I really want more than anything is a good chuckle. This, he delivers everytime.
So, does anyone else think my husband is beyond hilarious? Or is it just me? I'm still laughing.

Swan Lake

Unexpectedly, I got the invitation to attend Swan Lake last night at the Lincoln Center. The gal whose ticket I snagged had a sick baby, so she needed to stay home with him. Poor baby, lucky me! We had 4th tier seats, row N, but the view was still quite good. Girls Night Out! It was a mesmerizing production to say the least. And Peter, the birthday boy? He stayed home to check Facebook and email, responding to all of the birthday wishes. He was content, he says, because he got some indexing done (family history), plus he doesn't like cake.

Visiting Teachers

I'm kinda bugged lately. At my so-called visiting teachers. They never come. They never write. They don't even say hello to me sometimes at RS events or at church. Six weeks ago one of them approached me and apologized for not doing anything with VT, but it was an awkward exchange because I think she almost wanted me to make her feel better for neglecting me and her assignment. "Oh Allison, I'm your VT. And I feel so bad because we haven't ever visited you."
What am I supposed to say to that - "oh, thats okay. Don't worry about it. Don't feel bad...."
The truth is, she should feel bad! Its an important job. Everyone needs a shepherd. I know, I know, I can be an idealist and its hard not to expect that from others. Honestly, I'm a pretty good visiting teacher. I write cards, I visit every other month. I make cookies. I babysit. I say hello at church and RS events and sincerely try to create a caring friendship. I even threw a baby shower for someone I vt'd last year. Sigh....
Part of my frustration is that right now in my life I really need visiting teachers. I'm still relatively new in the ward, I've got no family in the vicinity, I'm not a part of the young mom club (75% of the RS), and I'll be moving soon. It'd be wonderful to feel cared about, overtly included, to have help moving, and to have visitors at least every other month to share a spiritual message. I guess not this time around... my task now is to not resent the situation and to let it go.
Like Peter says, many people suffer from failed perfectionism. They think they have to do something perfectly or they won't do it at all (visiting every month). So, instead of saying hello or dropping me a simple email or a card, they don't do anything. And everytime they see me, they feel guilty and anxious because I'm a reminder of their neglect. As opposed to feeling warmth, friendship and kindness.
My apologies if I sound harsh, critical or judgmental. I just wish my visiting teachers recognized how much I need them. This whole situation is helping me to be aware of the fact that everyone needs visiting teachers and that the program is inspired!!! AARGH!!! or should I say AMEN!
What are your thoughts and experiences with VT?